Secrets of Happily Married Women:

How to Get More Out of Your Relationship by Doing Less


The Secrets of Happy Families:

Eight Keys to Building a Lifetime of Connection and Contentment

Secrets of Happily Married Women
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Editorial Reviews

“If you’re a married woman, buy this book. It’s love insurance. Haltzman doesn’t only understand men, he “gets” women too; he’s bi-lingual. He’ll help you understand why the things you do to get through to your husband don’t always work and more importantly, what you can do you differently to get better results. His concrete, do-able, field-tested and practical tips will, without question, make your husband, your marriage and you happier and grateful you’ve followed his advice.”-Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, Author of Divorce Busting and Getting Through to the Man You Love

“Wives, what we’ve all been longing for has finally arrived. This masterpiece eliminates the womanly guesswork and illuminates the path to true marital happiness with honest, sincere, frank (and even humorous) information.” -Sheryl P. Kurland, Relationship/Marriage Trainer, Author, Everlasting Matrimony: Pearls Of Wisdom From Couples Married 50 Years Or More

“What a relief to read a book that makes so much sense. Haltzman’s keen insight into male and female differences and insightful counsel about how to create marital happiness should be a read by all couples who want a formula for a passionate marriage. I heartily recommend this book to both men and women.”-Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Author, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

“Every woman can benefit through understanding how to bring out the best in a man. Scott Haltzman brilliantly reveals this secret.” -John Gray, author Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

“Scott Haltzman has made the deep secrets of happy marriage accessible, memorable, and inspiring. He writes with a light touch that makes the reading thoroughly enjoyable. Don’t miss this engaging book!”-Susan Page, author, Why Talking Is Not Enough: 8 Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage and If I’m so Wonderful, Why am I Still Single?

“This book delivers! “The Secrets of Happily Married Women” is jam-packed with research, ancient truths, street-smart wisdom, and years of advice from the psychiatrist’s couch. Page after page provides a sensitive, sensible guide to a satisfying relationship.”-Patricia Love, Ed.D., Certified Love Educator, co-author How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

“This groundbreaking book combines a pro-female, pro-male, and pro-marriage approach to life and couple satisfaction. It’s very user-friendly with shared secrets and research gems coupled with a large dose of humor that makes clinical points personally relevant and easy to relate to. The sex self-test in Chapter 5 was a particularly effective tool to help set realistic expectations. This will be a particularly helpful book for couples to increase understanding, acceptance, and value their lives and marriage.”-Barry McCarthy, PhD, professor of psychology, American University, Author of Rekindling Desire and Getting it Right this Time

“Buy this book! Then keep it handy, like on the shelf next to your most treasured cookbooks. (Although, as it makes clear, the way to your man¹s heart is not through his stomach.) Myths busted. Mystery solved. It turns out you¹ve already got what it takes, you just need to get out of your own way and start blooming where you¹re planted ­ with a man that really does want to love you.”-Diane Sollee, founder and director,

“Finally. The first book that men will want women to read! Scott Haltzman has created a practical gem that allows women to focus on learning how to receive love from their husband. He advocates the Platinum (not Golden) Rule and urges women to “Do Unto Your Husband What He Wants Done Unto Him,” so they can find the marital happiness they long for.”-Jon Carlson, PsyD, EdD, Distinguished Professor, Governors State University, Author, Time For A Better Marriage

“Dr. Haltzman uses clear and practical language to show women how to engage and support their husband in their efforts to please them. He shares the “secrets” women really need to know about men, so this book is a “must-read!” Put reading this book at the start of your New Year’s resolutions.”-Susan L. Blumberg Ph.D., coauthor, Fighting for Your Marriage and 12 Hours to a Great Marriage

Library Journal:
As Haltzman (psychiatry & human behavior, Brown Univ.; The Secrets of Happily Married Men) knows-he’s been married for 20 years-the idea of shaping one’s marriage without it seeming like another job appeals to most women. Together with DiGeronimo (Raising Baby Green), he here proposes that men are hardwired to please women and that if a knowledgeable wife tailors her message to the way her husband can hear it, she will enjoy a deeper connection and achieve happiness without compromise. In a manner somewhat similar to John Gray’s in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, the authors advise married female readers to speak in shorter sentences, directly ask for what they want, and take charge of their own spiritual and intellectual need. Well done and recommended to update marital self-help sections.-Deborah Bigelow, Director, Leonia P.L., NJ
When it comes to relationship books and gurus, I am a skeptic. No book has ever spoken to me on a personal level or really hit on a specific issue in my marriage. Until now. The Secrets of Happily Married Women grabbed my attention from page one. Each section in this book has something to say to me and the way Dr. Scott handles this subject is amazing. It is like having him in the room, talking to me and revealing the inner workings of his own mind as a male.

The book arrived early this week and from the first chapter I began putting his advice to work for me. There is nothing hard about using the book or its advice. You really do Work Less. I have seen a major improvement in my husband’s communication to me and our general mood. The really interesting part is that I have not spoken one word to my husband about this book or using the tools I have learned.

This book is one that every single woman in a relationship should have. I can promise you that if you read this book and follow the advice within, you will see an amazing change in your attitude towards your mate. No bookshelf should be without it. – Julie Fletcher,

US News and World Report
Fortunately, for every problem, there’s a self-help book. And The Secrets of Happily Married Women: How to Get More Out of Your Relationship by Doing Less, out last month, might be particularly helpful because it’s written by a guy-Scott Haltzman, a marriage counselor and assistant professor of psychiatry at Brown University – who wants to help us get into the heads of the men we love. Scanning down the chapter titles, some of the advice is fairly obvious: Chapter 1: Know Your Husband. Chapter 2: Nurture His Needs-and Yours. Chapter 5: Have Lots of Sex. Then there’s Chapter 3: Fight Better. Yes! We’re allowed to fight!

The Secrets of Happy Families

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Editorial Reviews

This is a wonderful book. I recommend it to all families as required reading. — Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. author, Getting the Love You Want and Giving the Love That Heals: A Guide for Parents

This is a beautiful book—timely, passionate, and powerful. It is also so well written, it’s a page-turner and you’ll find wealth of insight on every page. If you have specific questions about how to make family love last, this book has practical answers. — Michael Gurian author, The Minds of Boys and The Wonder of Girls

Scott Haltzman’s writing is so engaging, it’s the kind of book you pick up in a bookstore and find yourself still reading a half hour later. Inspiring and enlightening, it is filled with fascinating facts, educational anecdotes, and wise advice that you will remember, use, and repeat to others, even years from now. Don’t miss this outpouring of love from a seasoned writer and psychiatrist. — Susan Page author, Why Talking Is Not Enough and If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?

An authoritative book on a timely subject for mental-health professionals and parents looking to strengthen familial bonds. — Library Journal

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Secrets of Happily Married Men:

Eight Ways to Win Your Wife’s Heart Forever

Secrets of Happily Married Men
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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly:
Haltzman begins this marriage guide for men by emphasizing the biological differences between men and women, arguing that traditional approaches to marriage counseling can devalue men and ignore immutable male qualities. Evolutionary biology along with explanations of the limbic system governing emotions provide the foundation for Haltzman’s argument that much psychological dogma is possibly wrong, buoying married men by suggesting that it might be healthy “to keep your feelings to yourself” or that getting in touch with feelings is not a panacea for a better marriage.

Then Haltzman, a psychiatry professor at Brown and operator of a Web site devoted to the “secrets of married men,” launches his eight strategies with remarkable vigor. Despite the author’s unorthodox theoretical groundwork, the strategies are commonsensical—make marriage your job, learn to listen, know your wife, aim to please. More important, they are extraordinarily well fleshed out and convincingly supported with useful “to do” lists and a multitude of examples. They will no doubt prove helpful to many men struggling to build a happy marriage. (Jan.)
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Psychology Today:

MANLY MEN REST assured: You can hope to become a better husband without having to get in touch with your feminine side. Psychiatrist Haltzman doesn’t ask men to change so much as to harness their best masculine strengths. Lively and entertaining, this broad guidebook provides Haltzman’s insights illuminated by anecdotes from his online discussion forum for married men. The upshot: Men would do well to approach their marriages with the same commitment and sense of purpose that they bring to a job. (1 January 2006) Copyright © Sussex Publishers, Inc. Jan/Feb 2006

Library Journal:

Asserting that men have the power to fix their broken marriages because they are men, psychiatrist and marriage counselor Haltzman put together a guidebook that helps men give their wives exactly what they want and receive from them exactly what they hoped for the day they got married. Drawing on years of clinical experience and responses on his web site (, the author cites several “secrets” that differentiate the happily from the unhappily married men. Those who are satisfied have learned to listen to and know their wives; they aim to please and expect conflict and have learned to deal with it. Haltzman writes guy to guy, with anecdotes and humor. While it may be a challenge to get men to check out this book, it is highly recommended for all libraries. Copyright © 2005 Reed Business Information.


“At last, a book by real men for real men focused on the prize (a happy and contented wife) and filled with the secrets to getting more and better sex, health, wealth, and happiness. It’s a road map for men, women, or anyone who works with them—straight to the promised land. No man who is married, or plans to get married, should be without this book.”–Diane Sollee, founder and director,

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